As devoted I am to my family, I’ve found that in order for me to be the best Vera I can be, I need to have interests beyond my husband and my children. However, it’s not always possible to juggle the role of wife, daughter, mother, crafter, organizer, and all the other different hats I wear.
Over time I’ve had to find the balance of being enough. It’s also meant letting go of my own expectations. There is no one harder or more critical of me than myself!
I’ve realized that while it’s important to dedicate yourself to family, it’s just as important to make sure that you take care of yourself.
For me, this means making the time for my hobbies. It also means that I have to be selective about my time and maximize as much as I can when I can.
Some of my hobbies include playing board games, running, reading, scrapbooking, sewing, needlework like embroidery or cross-stitch, quilting, photography, blogging/writing, thrifting/shopping, traveling, computer games, technology, house projects, and watching television/movies.
But, with only 24 hours a day, there is no way I can enjoy all my hobbies and take care of my family and be present in the “real world.” I pretty much adhere to that quote about how you can do all things, just not at once.
I’ve learned to focus my time to only a select few things at a time/season/month. Right now I’m focused on blogging/writing and house projects. There is a little bit of board games (once a week) and some reading. I try not to have too many current hobbies going on at once because then I feel like I get nothing done.
After Daylight Savings, I’m planning to invest time in running and sewing. I’ll scale back on house projects. One week might completely differ from the previous week. But I work on one project/task at a time and it feels really balanced to me.
That’s pretty much how I approach my hobbies, especially in this season of my life with two kids ages 3 and 1. When they are off to school, it’ll be another adjustment.
How about you? Have you taken or made time to pursue your interests? I noticed my temperament is much better when I am working on something specific rather than mindlessly browsing the internet. (You know, how one click leads to another link and the next thing you know it’s 10PM!)