It seems like every parenting book, magazine, or blog emphasizes the importance of date night with you spouse. While I do agree that the idea of date night is wonderful, actually being able to leave the house is not so easy. We are lucky that we live near my brother and even nearer to my mom. In a pinch, they could babysit, but it does not usually work out that way.
Inevitably we will get phone calls from my mom asking when we are coming back, and that we should be responsible parents and not stay out too late because our daughter likes to wake up early in the morning, etc. (Yes, my mom still mothers me. You would understand this if you come from an Asian family/upbringing!) Usually with my brother it would be completely dependent on his schedule. For example, he may or may not need to watch his son, he works at night, he has a class, and so on.
We have decided that what works best for us is to have our version of date night. At 7PM sharp, Bunny is in bed for the night, and we have the rest of the evening to spend together. Instead of date night, we have board game night. Sometimes, if my nephew is here, we will have family board game night.
It’s fun because we still chit chat with each other, and sometimes do a little competitive smack-talk. We are both pretty comparable in skill level so it is always a fun challenge to see who will win, or who is better at a particular game. I love it since we are both fully present in the game and environment, unlike a show or a movie where we both would both stare blankly at the hypnotizing screen.
I have to say that it’s been me who has been really bitten by the board game bug, and I have dragged the hubby into it. Thankfully he is a bit geeky too, so it works out for us both. It’s been great to look forward to an evening together in a fun, competitive spirit. It’s even better when I totally crush him in defeat, like our current game!