I admit that in the first year of Bunny’s life I read a lot of baby/parenting books. I wanted a book that would lay out everything just like an instruction manual so that I would totally know what to expect with my baby. Ha.
If anything, reading the books started to really stress me out because I wasn’t “following the book” or oh my gosh we have traumatized our child and years from now when she is in therapy, they will pinpoint it right to this exact moment.
Somewhere along the way I decided to just let it go. I let go of my expectations and stopped reading where my daughter should be on the milestone development charts. I gave back the books I borrowed from other parents and gave away books to soon-to-be parents. I have been figuring out that my own instincts are what matter most.
But lately, I have been feeling like maybe we are on the wrong track with discipline and guidance. Bunny has quite a strong personality and I wish I could say I am joking when there is a note in her file at the pediatrician’s office with the words, “Determined Child” in it. It is actually in her file!
So I thought it would be good to do a little bit of healthy reading to see how we can guide our daughter without resorting to spanking, screaming, sobbing, or throwing things.
I stumbled across The Child Whisperer book via Pinterest (love that site) and I have to say a lot of light bulb moments went off for me. It felt like a lot of things were clicking in place.
Brian has been so impressed that he is now reading the book too. It’s a pretty big deal when I can get Brian to read a book. I think it sealed the deal for him when Bunny was in the middle of a tantrum and I successfully stopped it without everyone losing their minds. I still remember seeing his jaw drop in shock!
I highly recommend reading this book. It will probably be my new parenting book recommendation. I am glad that I picked it up now because already I see a difference in my behavior and Bunny’s behavior. Definitely a lot more understanding between us and a lot less meltdowns.