One of my favorite books about marriage/relationships is It’s Not You, It’s the Dishes (originally published as Spousonomics): How to Minimize Conflict and Maximize Happiness in Your Relationship.
For me, the most memorable part of the book where everything just made complete sense was the part about chores. The spouse/partner who is better at the chore and can complete it faster should do it.
For people like me, vacuuming is hard. I try to plan the flow of the room, and work my way so that the vacuum lines are even and nice. But it just turns out that I end up stepping on places I’ve already covered and by the time I’m done I know my floors are clean, but it’s not quite the pristine look I was hoping for.
My husband on the other hand, is amazing at vacuuming. Check out the perfect lines above! It takes him way less time to do it.
When we work together on chores, we divide it up pretty well as to what our best skills are.
Things I’m better at:
- Bathroom cleaning
- Paying bills/paperwork
Things he’s better at:
- Vacuum & Mopping
- Emptying the trash
Of course, that doesn’t mean I never pick up a vacuum, but if time allows, and it makes sense at that moment, then I will do it.
Part of having a more simplified home is having a conversation together about shared responsibility to take care of the house.
(At our first apartment, I did all the vacuuming until the day we moved out of the apartment and it was because my husband totally hid his secret talent! It was because we were going crazy cleaning up that he took on the vacuuming! I don’t know whether to laugh or cry whenever I tell that story!