Have you heard of aspirational clutter? Basically, it’s stuff you have/buy/want to fit a mold you think you should/could/want about yourself.
I have a friend who has sent me many, many messages over the last couple of years about putting together a baby scrapbook. Her child is now 3.5 years old. She has bought scrapbook albums and supplies, returned them to try something else, and then circled back to “try” again. As of last month, she still hasn’t started. I have suggested to her a couple of times that it’s okay, her child will be fine if they don’t have a baby scrapbook, but in her mind she needs to have it done.
Even though it’s still not done and probably* won’t be done.
I’m not immune to aspirational clutter myself.
Some of the things I’ve bought and neglected include:
- Supplies and books on making dolls
- Fabric for sewing projects
- Board games that are still in shrink
- Cookbooks and a couple of classics that are unread
- Apps that I downloaded that remain unplayed
- Clothes that still have tags on them
- Sealing wax to finish a piece of furniture (next to my as I type this!)
I could also name some of my husband’s and my children’s like:
- Unplayed video games
- Books for the kids to read when they’re older
- Toys that are stored away for later use
With that in mind, I read this quote by Cheryl Strayed that’s now my desktop wallpaper.
“Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.”
I would encourage you to think about the things in your home and what they represent to the you of right now. I know there are a few on my personal list that could use some simplifying and reflection.
*I really hope it does get done, and have helped as much as I could!