I’m a huge fan of Gretchen Rubin‘s books and podcast. I reviewed her last book, Better Than Before: What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits–to Sleep More, Quit Sugar, Procrastinate Less, and Generally Build a Happier Life, and thoroughly enjoyed it. (I’ve got one of my best friends reading my copy now!)
In The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People’s Lives Better, Too), Gretchen explores what she calls The Four Tendencies. To summarize, people generally fall into four broad categories on how they manage their expectations for themselves and for the rest of the world. The easiest way to show it is through this graphic she has shared on her website:
In her book, she explores each tendency and how they behave in general, and covers how they are as children, in relationships, and at work, along with strengths and weaknesses of each type.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I was reading sections of the book out loud to my husband, and laughing hysterically as it described his Questioner tendency perfectly. (He laughed too, and said, “It’s true.”) If you follow Gretchen, you’ll be pretty familiar with the Tendencies, and their quirks on how they manage both inner and outer expectations, but it’s all nicely put together in one book.
She’s not a scientist or a psychologist, and she does say this is not a personality test like the Myers-Briggs, or Enneagram. It feels like it in some ways, but I think it covers more about our own habits and why some people need different types of accountability.
Great book. I’m keeping it in my collection!
Disclaimer: I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review. All opinions are my own.